What did you do in 2017 that you had never done before?
I walked 39 miles in the Avon Walk for a Cancer Cure this September.
I kept almost all of my New Year’s Resolutions except for my blogging goals. I’ve had to rethink my blog because my writing time has mostly gone towards finishing my memoir, which I’m still working on.
- Did anyone close to you give birth? (I can’t fix these numbers without a great deal of time so please forgive them.)
Cousin Emily Joy gave birth to a baby girl, Lila Joy, in December, whom we haven’t had the joy of meeting yet.
2. Did anyone close to you die?
No but a church family, whom we love, lost a son in April and several good friends lost a parent this year.
- What countries or new places did you visit?
Had a business trip to Midland ,Texas and I’d never been to West Texas as well as Grass Valley in Northern California.
- What would you like to have in 2018 that you lacked in 2017?
Consistent paper organization and zero email box. At the end of 2017, I finally got my email box down to zero and have a new mail/paper system. The challenge for me is to keep up my system and continue to remain organized.
What dates from 2017 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
April 16th – the day Dylan Stump died. Although I didn’t know Dylan, I love his parents, who have been a part of my church family for 20 years. Death of a 19 year old devastates us all.
- What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Eliminating the hip pain I’ve had for nine years. I have lived with hip pain of an unknown cause since 2008. I’ve tried more interventions than you would care to read about. The last piece of the puzzle was a massage therapist recognizing my gait was off, which led to a discovery that my left toe had been jammed for years – creating issues all the way up to my hip. Once I got the toe moving (which took my toe from no pain to tremendous pain), it took four months of daily stretches before I eliminated the pain – (toe and hip). I identify this as my biggest achievement because while I was in the middle of it I had no idea whether I could live without pain and it was a exercise in grit and perseverance. There was no glory, no prize, no internal motivation except for a determination to keep trying to live pain-free. What kept me going: regular appointments with my skilled massage therapist for deep tissue release, stretching and exercise routine created by my chiropractor from regular assessments of which muscles were overworking or weak, taking turmeric capsules and asking for external accountability to stretch daily.
- What was your biggest failure?
My garage is still a mess and I didn’t finish my memoir. I made progress – it’s three parts and I’m 100% complete with part 1, 80% done with part 2 and 5% done with part 3.
- Did you suffer illness or injury?
In addition to hip pain, I had a shoulder injury from a snow weekend that turned out to be deeply inflamed and required creative modifications and finding natural anti inflammatories (turmeric, fish oil) to help reduce the swelling.
- What’s the best thing you bought?
I love my new car – A Chevy Bolt. I love never going to the gas pump but most of all, I love my back-up camera which gives me a bird’s eye view so I can see the LINES. As someone who loves parallel parking, it has taken my game to elite status.
- Where did most of your money go?
Mortgage – I live in Southern California need I say anything else.
- What did you get really excited about?
I got excited about developing organizational habits in order to stay organized, efficient and eliminate avoidable stress – and so far have maintained it for about 45 days so I’m encouraged I’ll be able to maintain it. I have also been excited about creating fun and meaningful memories with my children. My daughter, a freshman in high school, is a concrete reminder of how little time I’ll have with everyone living at home.
- What song will always remind you of 2017?
‘Issues’ by Julia Michaels epitomizes my mental world this year. The older I get, the more I realize I will forever fall short of the type of character I’d love to possess. What’s different for me now, is I’ve come to accept myself within my limitations – impatience, at times intellectually arrogant, undisciplined in some areas, and critical. I’ve developed enough self-compassion not to like these things that show themselves when I’m at my worst but at the same time, not have an overactive internal judge show up when they’ve been present.
- Compared to this time last year, are you:
—happier or sadder?
Neither…I’ve had ups and downs. Up – celebrating my 20 year anniversary and we’ve never been happier. Down – walking with a friend who has stage 4 breast cancer. This is a difficult road to journey and we’ve had a lot of sad news to navigate as treatment after treatment has failed.
— thinner or fatter?
fatter – hormones and carbs caught up to me. I gained more weight this year than I ever have. Luckily, with the help of my nutritionist who I’ve used for pre-diabetes threat, we discovered how to eliminate the weight gain. Now the job of losing the weight I gained…more positive results regarding health though is I am no longer pre-diabetic – dropped my levels .2.
— richer or poorer?
richer. Business was good this year and we live with a budget.
16. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Read great fiction books. This year I didn’t read a ton of books. Most of my reading time was spent on professional non-fiction and magazine articles.
17. What do you wish you’d done less of?
Driving. Last spring I spent 20 hours a week on the road. My son’s school is about 30 minutes away, which gives he and I time to listen to non-fiction audio books together, which we both enjoy. But this year, I may try to sneak in some juvenile fiction. (He may not go for it -non-fiction is his favorite.)
I spent Christmas in my hometown in the mountains of Washington. It was a splendid white Christmas with lots of family time.
I don’t watch much television except sports (can’t wait for the Olympics!) However, I have watched a few things on Netflix this year. Though I’m only on season 2, I’ve enjoyed Parenthood – love the relational and family dynamics at play. Confession: I really want to watch This is Us but I haven’t spent the time figuring out how to watch it since I’m behind and need to first watch the first season.
20. What were your favorite books of the year?
Though an older book, I read The Martian by Andy Weir for the first time and loved it so much, I had my husband read it (edited) to my nine year old who LOVED it, too. The tone and style of the narrator captured me and drew me in as he overcame trial after trial. Other favorites were How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overcoming Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success by Julie Lythcott-Haims (highly recommend for parents with middle school students or above) and I reread and enjoyed the newest edition of John Gottman’s The Seven Principles for Making Healthy Marriage Work. (great reminder of what helps cultivate intimacy and goodness in marriage.)
21. What was your favorite music from this year?
My favorite album was Imagine Dragons’ Evolve and Ed Sheeran’s Divide. I’ve also been enjoying U2’s new album, Songs of Experience but haven’t listened enough to say it’s a favorite. Songs on repeat were ‘Believer” by Imagine Dragons, “Back to the Garden” by Crowder, ‘If I Told You’ by Darius Rucker and ‘Walk on Water’ by Thirty Seconds to Mars. I indulged in about six concerts this year – favorite large concert was U2’s Joshua Tree Tour and smaller venue was Needtobreathe’s House of Blues concert.
22. What was your favorite film of the year?
Again…Star Wars. Though The Last Jedi has had mixed reviews, I really enjoyed it. I know this isn’t a deep, rich choice but when I go to the movies, I long to escape some of the realities in the really world. So, living in this world that I’ve known since my childhood, satisfies my soul. I will confess as I sat in the theater during the credits (one of five of us who stayed to the end), I couldn’t help shed a few tears about Carrie Fisher’s death. I grieve we’ll miss a “good-bye” film with her like we’ve had with Harrison Ford and Mark Hamill.
23. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I had a small gathering of friends the night of my birthday. I worked my birthday weekend in Texas so wanted to keep it low key but meaningful.
24. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Having a personal cook. Making meals at the end of the day and having prepared lunch was a challenge this year. Loved ordering Blue Apron to help me out when I was in a pinch to buy ingredients for a yummy meal.
25. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2017?
Boho – still. :). I have yet to give up bright colors. I enjoy bohemian style, one of a kind, comfortable clothing. I love supporting LA designers and haunting sample sales occasionally where a person can find unique items that never made it to mass production. “Comfortable feet” was a value — purchasing several styles of “non-athletic” tennis shoes – white Eccos, red Munros, gray and black Josef Seibels.
26. What kept you sane?
Keeping my calendar steady but not over committed as well as learning how to manage all the information coming at me that needs to be organized and kept track of…definitely hoping to continue to improve this type of organization.
27. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2017.
Be present in the moments you have. Live well and full. You never know when your life is going to be turned upside down.
28. What new habit are you developing to decrease your environmental footprint?
We purchased metal and glass straws in order to decrease our straw use. In the US, we use 500 million straws every day. For the last 15 years, I have made different choices, created habits in order to help my environmental footprint. I realize I’m only one person but I’m modeling for my children how to think outside of their own convenience, ease or financial benefit. Some of our choices over the years have been: changing out our gas vehicles for alternative fuel, reusable bags (for the last 10 years), for a year – buying new clothing from only social and environmental justice sources but mostly buying from consignment stores, don’t buy from the $1.00 bins at Target – almost guaranteed – fair wages and/or environment impact isn’t being considered for cheap items, fair trade chocolate versus commercial chocolate, using cloth napkins and towels instead of paper napkins and paper towels and changing out chemical cleaners with environmentally “pure” cleaners.